Kids do it all the time. Have you ever seen a kid get angry or sad, then get distracted by well, just about anything, and instantly forget how bad they felt? They run off to play and life goes on.
What holds us back from doing that same thing? The thought that we’re supposed to DO something about how we feel is what holds us back.
If we feel angry or sad we look for someone to blame, or the situation that caused it. Sometimes we can’t get over it unless that someone or something changes. When we stop looking for the outside world to make us feel better, we can go within and deal with the feeling all on our own.
Did you know that feelings will go away if you don’t give them a whole lot of attention? But they grow and grow if you try to figure them out or try to get rid of them. It sounds too simple to believe, doesn’t it?
Give it a try. Right now, feel whatever you’re feeling (we always have a feeling lurking inside), and lightly focus on it without telling yourself a story about it. Do you feel it moving? Is it growing? It’s okay, let it. Gently keep at it. I know it’s easy to get distracted but never mind that. Keep going back to the feeling. Do you feel it dissolving?
If you’re working hard at it and it feels like effort, you’re doing it wrong. Easy does it, that’s the rule. The less you worry about it, the more you allow it to be there, and the quicker it dissolves.
You’ve heard of taking 10 breaths when you’re angry, right? That’s exactly the same thing. It’s allowing the feeling just to be. It’s there, whether you like it or not. When you try to push it away it holds on tight. When you give it permission to be there it decides it doesn’t;t really want to be there after all!
This is a very powerful tool, one that has changed my life. Give it a try and let me know how it goes!