Are We Bad Parents?

Are We Bad Parents?

going on vacation during schoolAre my husband and I bad parents because we pulled our son out of school for a week last month, just to go on vacation? This isn’t the first time we’ve done it either. We’ve been doing it for years, ever since our kids began going to different schools with different breaks.

Some parents would never do this. I know this because of the looks we’ve received when we mention what we’re doing. A few brave souls have asked, “Aren’t you afraid you’re setting a bad example for your kids?”.

Are we? The short answer is “hell no”. But, once upon a time I did question myself— back when I thought there was a “wrong” way and a “right” way to do things, and nothing else.

I think the people who believe it’s irresponsible to take your child out of school for a romp in the world have a great point. I also think people like my husband and I, who believe family bonding time and new experiences are important, have a great point too.

Who knows what our kids will learn from us in the end? All I know is that we had a lot of fun on those family vacations.

2 Responses to Are We Bad Parents?

  1. Isn’t is lovely that other people help us to get an experiential understanding that their opinion is totally irrelevant in our lives ? Well Sally thinks that I should do this, but Molly think that I should do that and also there is Brad who thinks I should be doing a contrary thing to all of that. But at the end of the day all of those lovely people are wanting to remind you that it never was your responsibility to make them approve of you, in fact you can’t stay on your head enough to satisfy all of them and if you try they would simply go all out to make it completely impossible reminding you that you have your very own emotional guidance system which tells you exactly what is right and wrong for you to do in a moment. Not universally but special crafted version just for you. And all it takes is just stay true to that and see how it all transforms into a beautiful harmonious dance of life. Be like little children, which know exactly what they want. We can to. We just trained ourselves out of trusting it and substituting it for the parents, teachers, mentors, friends, relatives opinion which costs us our happiness. But it doesn’t have to be that way and when you’d claim your power back then the freedom and fulfillment gained are beyond understanding. And even if the whole world would be showing the “evil look” and disapproving you’d be laughing knowing that what you’re doing is exactly right for everyone this time including you.

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